Spring is so special because it is a season of rebirth. Flora and fauna reawaken and our moods seem to blossom, as well. I love the beauty and possibilities, with the summer in my windshield and the winter in my rearview mirror. There are wonderful holidays for so many to celebrate, as well, and that is the focus of my blog this week.
We love to think about traditions at this time of year. Even more so, I believe, than the winter holidays, when travel is iffy and weather contributes to or can cause disappointment, the spring holidays beckon family and friends to gather. The concern, often, however, is around traditions, and how the generations deal with them. I always yielded to my amazing Mom-in-law’s talents for hosting, assisting whenever and wherever she wanted. But there came a time when it became “my holiday” and I would do things “my way.” Perfect? No, just the way I was able to do them. Eventually, I, too, gave up hosting the holidays, and my daughters took them. My goal was always to be supportive of their ability to create their vision, not mine.
The angst for so many of my generation seems to be around “giving up” the way things are or have been done. Today’s world is very different than the one my generation knew when at the ages of our children. Let’s look at some of the changes, from both the negative and the positive…
Food: families are so busy that homemade food is a rarity (neg); however, food of all types can be ordered all day and all night, and most of it is wonderful! (pos)
Tabletop: nobody seems to care about the beauty of a table anymore (neg); however, everything can be cleared in a few minutes, leaving more time to visit (pos)
Traditions: they seem to go by the wayside because everyone is busier than ever (neg); But making new traditions is an important gift we can give each other (pos)
I know I am a Pollyanna, and have always been one. I like to imagine good things are most likely to happen. The point for all of us is that change is the only constant, and recognizing that is a true positive. Holding onto what was, may cause us to not enjoy what is, and if the holidays signify anything, it is joy! Embracing the way things are done NOW is the gift that is most special this beautiful time of year!
Inspirational words as always!
I especially liked and agree with you 100% “that change is the only constant, and recognizing that is a true positive.”
As always, thank you for sharing!!!!!
You put it so well as we are all dealing with change especially of family traditions around all the different holidays. Embracing change is positive.
Change is the only constant in life. So true. But I do miss some of the former traditions. The beautiful table delicious food and the whole family being together.
Dear Ellyn,
Your blog acknowledges an important truth: our children’s world is quite different than ours. Their priorities are different than ours. Letting them takeover responsibility for family gatherings means changing our expectations. Maybe they’ll ask for our advice. But if not, we should be grateful for their efforts and not judge.
Can I relate to being a Pollyanna too!! Am going in later for an endoscopy .. try to get to the whys of my mouth problems ! So hopefully will feel & good by 2 pm.
Two of my sons are married to terrific girls. But we are blessed that both sets of in-laws are fabulous. Passover dinner was enjoyed on a beautifully adorned table. We took turns reading the Haggadah. But insofar as passing the torch, one of my DILs loves to entertain and yes, her unique personality and entertaining style are different but is definitely warm and enjoyable.